Ever wondered if finding a great husband is just luck? Or if you’re supposed to sit around waiting for Mr. Right to appear out of thin air? The belief that love effortlessly falls into place is a common misconception. However, the truth is more nuanced. Finding a devoted husband requires a deliberate approach—knowing the traits you seek in a partner and refining yourself to align with those you desire.
In this blog, we’ll cover three important points to help you attract your dream devoted husband: firstly, figuring out what values and qualities you desire in him that complements you, secondly, understanding how attraction actually works by embodying the qualities of a woman who would attract your dream husband; thirdly, working through your past wounds to prepare yourself so that you can attract better relationships into your life. We’ll give you some simple actionable steps at the end to help you find a devoted husband.
Values and Qualities
Finding a dream husband requires you to first become clear with the values and qualities you desire. It’s about envisioning the traits that resonate with your essence and complement your aspirations. First we need to understand the differences between values and qualities.
Values: These are deeply held beliefs or principles that guide a person’s behavior and decision-making. Values represent what someone considers important, what they stand for, and what they prioritize in life. For example, values might include integrity, family, career, or personal growth.
Qualities: While qualities may be similar to values, they don’t guide a person’s behaviour. These are traits or attributes that someone possesses. For example, being fun could be a part of who they are and one of their qualities, even if it’s not a core value to them. “Fun” doesn’t always affect how they make choices—it’s just something they naturally have. These qualities show what someone’s personality or behavior is like.
A devoted husband you desire might embody values such as growth, family, integrity and faith which dictates the big decisions they make in life. They might possess qualities such as leadership skills, decisiveness, or independence—a person who can offer protection and stability. These become the guiding principles that shape the foundation of a meaningful relationship, transcending mere superficial preferences.
Once you’ve identified the values and qualities that are important to you, it’s crucial to consider what would attract someone who embodies them. The misconception often revolves around the belief that similarity breeds attraction. Shared values are important because this dictates the priorities you share together when you are in partnership and big decisions you make together for the family. However, a fulfilling relationship has shared qualities as well as complementing qualities. It’s not about being identical; it’s about having qualities that allow you both to work alongside each other with your different strengths to complement each other.
For instance, if your top values are family and stability and they act as your guide in decision making but his top values are fun and variety to guide his decision making, this could cause a disconnect, leading to difficulty in having your deep needs being satisfied in the relationship.
On the other hand, if your top values align and you possess a mix of complementary qualities, it can greatly contribute to a harmonious and lasting relationship. For instance, his stability complementing your generosity or his leadership complementing your nurturing nature fosters a partnership that leverages your unique strengths.
How Attraction Works
Similarly to what we have discussed earlier about complementing your dream partner’s qualities, it’s important to understand that what makes a relationship work is having things is common. But what makes a relationship passionate is things being different.
If you want to embody the qualities of a woman who would attract a devoted husband, you need to first understand what a devoted husband desires. This is not about being inauthentic to who you are, instead it’s about uncovering the parts of you that you may have buried because you did not realise they were the very traits that make you shine.
For example, an ambitious woman may showcase her career success to connect with an equally driven man. But when it comes to the science of attraction, opposite energies attract and create passion. An ambitious man in their masculine energy would be attracted to nurturing qualities which are often associated with the feminine energy. This doesn’t mean you should be giving up your ambitions. Instead, it’s about recognizing and letting your feminine essence thrive and come to light. Often, women suppress their innate feminine nature because society puts masculine traits on a pedestal. As you allow your feminine essence to shine, you start attracting devoted masculine men who complement your strengths to create a harmonious partnership.
(Here’s another blog that goes deeper into the science of attraction.)
Healing from Past Wounds to Attract Better
Healing from past wounds allow you to attract a better life partner as it reshapes the dynamics of relationships. Trauma bonding, stemming from unresolved past experiences, can lead to connections with others who mirror our unhealed wounds. When unresolved emotional scars linger, they often shape relationship patterns, attracting partners who echo these wounds.
This means, the more you heal, the better you attract! As you heal, the resonance with partners rooted in trauma diminishes, making space for connections with people who align with your healthy emotional well-being. As you heal your own insecurities, you will start attracting men who have also worked through their own insecurities. Although healing and growth is always ongoing, the people you attract will start complementing where you are on your journey. If you don’t like who you see in the mirror, being in a relationship won’t fix the problem, instead it brings it to light. So if you truly want to find a healthy devoted husband, the first step is to work on your own healing.
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